Some New Resources

We’re about halfway through the fall semester and you may be thinking, “what’ll I do with my group when we finish this study?”  Well, I’ve got some new resources on marriage you may want to consider:

1. When Sinners Say ‘I Do’, Dave Harvey.  The book, 10 chapters/175 pgs., is “about encountering the life-transforming power of the gospel in the unpredictable journey of marriage.” A study guide is also available providing questions for discussion.

2. Each for the Other, Bryan and Kathy Chapell. In the book, the authors “offer indispensable truths on how to sacrificially love your partner.”  This book comes with a discussion guide as well.

3. What Did You Expect, Paul David Trip. This is a DVD series consisting of ten 25 minute sessions with accompanying study guide. From the cover: “It won’t take long for you to realize that your marriage hasn’t escapted the reality of sin. It’s what you do next that will make all the difference in the character and quality of your marriage.”

All these resources, and a few more, are available at the church. If you’re interested, just let me know.


Three Discussion Questions

I have used or plan to use all three of these questions in various settings. The first one is a little trivial, but gets people talking. The second is a little goofy, but invites deeper reflection on our spiritual conditions. The last exposes what we think of the church and its mission (to the four pictures included you could add a shopping mall too!).

 

 

 

 


Small Groups and Outreach at ECC

Serving together as a group can really help a group grow together relationally. If you’re like me though, coming up with ideas for service projects is a big challenge. I frequently get questions from small group leaders about this.

Newsletter Preview

 

The Outreach Committee at ECC is a valuable resource for you as a small group leader, and they are beginning to put out a monthly newsletter with lots of opportunities to get involved as a group. The newsletter will be posted monthly on this blog, but you can sign up to have emailed directly to you by contacting the committee at eccoutreach@gmail.com and requesting to be put on the email list.

Here’s the August Newsletter.


Using Silence to Invite Conversation

Have you ever been a part of a group where one or two members do almost all the talking? If not, maybe you’re the culprit! Anyway, as a leader it’s incredibly challenging to reign in the more domineering members and encourage the more reserved members to participate. Parker Palmer uses a technique in his classrooms that could prove useful in a living room with a small group also. Put in place, just for a week as a trial, a simple rule that no one is allowed to talk more than three times in the hour of study. That will make the conversation slower as people take time to reflect on whether their insight is worth ‘burning’ one of the opportunities to speak. The slowed conversation allows for deeper reflection, gives time for those who process slower, reign in the ones who answer every question first and puts some responsibility for carrying the conversation on the quieter members – if they don’t talk, it’ll be a short meeting!

Certainly, I wouldn’t use that rule every week, and be willing to be flexible if someone has a burning issue they need to talk about. But give it a whirl and see if it opens up some space for deeper conversations.


Great Resource for Bible Study Leaders

If your group likes to work through books of the Bible, I would highly recommend picking up the corresponding Bible Speaks Today Commentary from InterVarsity Press. The commentaries are well done, cheap, and very accessible (you don’t have to be a Greek scholar to track with them).  John Stott serves as the series editor. In addition to the helpful commentary, most BST volumes contain a study guide at the end with questions to discuss (the following volumes do not contain such a study guide: Luke, 2 Corinthians, Philippians, Colossians/Philemon, 2 Timothy, Hebrews, and James). Whether you rely on the commentary and study guide solely or use them in conjunction with another guide, I believe they would be a valuable aid in your preparation. If you want to look one over before you buy it, just let me know – the whole series is on my shelf.


Questions That Open Up Space

We all know the difference between open ended and closed questions. Closed questions don’t require much critical reflection, just reporting what we read, observed, etc.  Open questions probe for opinions, feelings, responses, etc. Both are useful, but in creating dialogue and conversation, open ended questions are much more useful…unless they are too open.

In The Courage to Teach, Parker Palmer contends, correctly I think, “Some questions close down the space and keep students from thinking…Other questions open up so much space tht they lose students in a trackless wasteland.”

Here’s a couple examples:

Question that closes space: “What did Jesus say to the Pharisees in this verse?”

Questions that open too much space: “So, what do you think?”

An Open but Bounded Question: “Why do you think Jesus said that to the Pharisees? If you were in Jesus’ shoes, how would you have responded to the Pharisees? If you were in the Pharisee’s shoes, how would you have responded to Jesus’ words?”

I think we’ve all be in groups where the discussion comes as easily and happily as a kidney stone. Maybe it’s not because the people are bored or disengaged, maybe they just meed some good, guided questions. Maybe.


Uncomfortable Question

Does your group ever complain? About life, our nation, our culture, our church? Do you have chronic complainers? Here’s a tough question, but a good one to pull out of the bag in the midst of such gripe sessions. My guess, it’ll stop the gripping in its tracks and could be a great opportunity for some meaningful, gut level conversations.

“How do you contribute to the problem you complain about?”

Ouch. Hey, before you break out a confrontational question like that, make sure you have enough street cred with the group!


Christianity Explored

From the promotional materials:

“Over 7 weeks, guests journey through the Gospel of Mark exploring the identity, mission and call of Jesus – who he is, why he came and what it means to follow him. There is plenty of time to ask questions and discuss the claims of Jesus and their implications for our lives.”

Christianity explored has been out for over a decade now, and is widely acclaimed as the best evangelistic study on the market. Michael Horton comments, “It represents the best example I know of for effectively reaching non-Christians without diluting the message.”

The study comes with a leaders guide, study guides for participants, and an optional DVD. It should be in my office next week (the newest edition releases May10). Check it out. Even if you don’t intend to use it for an evangelistic study, your group could certainly benefit from a study that focuses on the life and ministry of Jesus that teaches how to raise these issues with unbelieving friends.


Three types of questions

It’s easy to get into a rut with our question asking, posing the same type of questions with little variation. Take a look at the studies you’ve done recently and run your questions through the grid offered by Ronald Habermas. He outlines three types of questions: 1) Questions seeking answers, 2) Questions requiring discussion, and 3) Questions posing problems. I think a good study or a good class will utilize all three.

Habermas goes on to detail several types of Questions Seeking Answers. There are open ended (i.e. “How do you go about discerning God’s will for your life?”) and closed ended questions (i.e. “What does the text say regarding how did the Jerusalem Council come to its decision?”). Also, there are directed and generic questions. Directed questions put someone on the spot – “Andy, how did your parents handle conflict?” and can be useful in drawing quieter members into the discussion. Generic questions, where no one particular person is called out, are less threatening. Then there are loaded or hypothetical questions. Loaded questions (i.e.”No one here really buys into infant baptism, do they”) tend to squash discussions and should be avoided. Hypothetical questions, ‘What if’ questions, tend to foster a tone of inquiry and encourage responsiveness.

In those type of questions, there is a limited range of correct answers. Questions requiring discussion, Habermas’ second category, opens that range up a good bit. With these type of questions, we show we value diversity of opinions and acknowledge we can learn from one another. The questions above can be turned into questions requiring discussion quite easily: How should we go about discerning God’s will in our life? Why do you think the Jerusalem Council made it’s decision in this way? How does seeing our parents resolve conflict affect us and how we resolve it?

The third category is also quite useful: questions that pose problems. These type of questions can come in the form of a case study, and apparent contradiction we live with, can be very provocative, and are incredibly helpful in teaching us to dialogue civilly and in love. Habermas suggests choosing a significant, relevant, thought provoking problem. Then, having picked your problem, wording it carefully as a question that encourages probing and promotes ownership. An example might be, “Is lying ever permissible or is it always wrong?”   I’m sure you can come up with more and better examples of questions posing a problem.

As the people in our groups come with different expectations and learning styles, varying the types of questions we ask will help a greater number of them feel engaged as learners and participants. Be thoughtful not just of what you ask, but of how you ask it.


Using Movies

Summer and movies go together like butter and popcorn, hot dogs and relish.  The summer is a tough time to keep a study going, especially one that is sequential. So, why not switch up the pace a little this summer and use some big movies to generate the discussion. Better yet, turn it into something purposeful and invite some non-believing friends to join you for the movie watching and discussion. Movies may be less intimidating than Romans to start off with and could provide a great chance to introduce your non-believing neighbors into the group. For something extra cool, rent a projector and set up a big screen for an outside movie night – invite neighborhood kids. Drop the discussion for this one and make sure it’s not a Quentin Tarantino flick. If you’re looking some help in leading the discussion, check out Ransom Fellowships list of movies and discussions.


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